This is what the story you met says about your relationship, the psychologist reveals

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This is what the story of your meeting says about your relationship

Today December 31, 2023 | 10:11

You can usually still remember the first meeting, the first kiss, and the first conversation with your partner very clearly. When you ask about the story of how you met, you remember and the butterflies flutter in your stomach again.

Psychology professor John Gottman claims loudly Brigitte DThe way you tell the story of getting to know each other can say a lot about your relationship.

Narrative style is crucial

Gottman's theory relates to the narrative style of couples. According to the psychologist, the way the story is told shows how you feel about your relationship.

The psychologist is convinced that couples who tell the story of how they got to know each other in detail, in detail and with love, will be happy together for a long time. Above all, the “we” and complementarity of each other are signs that the couple will be together for a long time.

If the story of getting to know each other is described in terms of “I,” “he,” and “she” and details are left out, this is a sign, according to Gottman, that the relationship is doomed to failure.

Gottman's approach seems clear, but of course the relationship depends on many other factors and cannot be simply reduced to the story of how we get to know each other.